Don’t Rush Your Children: Let Them Be Kids A Little Longer

It all began with kidding my youngest about the times  I would sing to him as a toddler before he slept and he would blurt out, “Sing, Mama, Sing!” when I would abruptly stop singing as I myself drifted to sleep. We then started remembering many more moments or should I say, predicaments, where I think I needed rescue. There were days, these moments became what I would often call, “Get me out of here” situations!

It’s quite ironical that what used to bring us exasperation when our older kids were much. much younger are the very moments we now sorely miss.

Let me try if we share the same list:

  1. The Dreaded Shampoo in the Eyes situation

Bathing is usually fun especially when you use a bath tub or a giant basin. We always had water toys and lots of bubbles which the kids would pretend was  hot coffee  or cocoa with frothed milk. But it was tricky when it was shampoo time.   “Not in my eyes, not in my eyes!” would often be their battle cry. I think we even contemplated on buying that plastic visor contraption to prevent soap suds from getting into the face. But day after day, that was stressful until the day they overcame the fear !

2.  “Read stories?”

Oh, I remember our eldest always had 5 or more  storybooks in tow during bedtime and would beg  with his chubbiest smile, “Read stories? “.  How could you resist? How could you resist the nth book he requests no matter how tired you were?

3. The Handprints on the Windows and Mirrors

Chubby hands, small feet, peanut M&M or Dippin’ Dot toes… I don’t see stains anymore and it does make one sad.

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4.  The Fear of Medicine (white one, pink one, orange one)

Remember the stress of coercing, bribing them  and practically ramming dreadful medicine down their throats by hook or by crook? I remember having to pray with them before swallowing the feared paracetamol or some yucky antibiotic.  Or having to get the other siblings to rally as cheerleaders when it was time for medicine intake.

5. Nap Time Battles

Whether it be struggling to stay awake waiting for the little one to doze or  the little one waking up the moment you put them down from being carried, the sleep sergeant in me would often find myself napping with them out of fatigue from  the whole process of putting them to sleep.  So some may say, nap when the baby naps but others find the nap times as “me time” to do other things. Oh, naps!!!!

6. The Loooooonnnnng Prayers

At bedtime, one son got used to praying against all his fears.  So the list was long and he did it every night for years.  Oh yes, you name it, he prayed against it!  Volcanic eruption, earthquake, storms, bad guys, scorpions, snakes, and even tarantulas!

7.   The Clingy State

There was an afternoon that I had to leave my son and so before he napped, he said, “ Mama, I want my nap to be so long so when I wake up, you’re here na.”  How could your heart not melt with that? But of course there were days when we gathered with other homeschooling families and one child would not leave my  side to play with all the other children.  I envied the other moms who had more independent and less clingy children. But now that they are all not clingy anymore, you wonder why you rushed them to learn to be on their own????

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8. Car Seat/ Stroller Struggle

Having live abroad without a full time nanny when we had one toddler and an infant, the Filipino babies needed  to learn to sit and drift to sleep in their stroller or car seat. Usually, Filipino babies upon any sign of distress in their strollers and car seats, would be taken of their “dilemmas” and comforted.   We had to see our eldest then cry it out and drift to sleep in his car seat and stroller. Oh it took a whole of crying ( and vomiting ) at one point.

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9. Non Stop Questions

“How old is God?”, “Is Lola older than Noah?” ” What happened, Mama?” “Why, Papa, why? “.  Oh, there are days that we may not be able to take another question from our curious children.   Before you lose your patience, just write the question down and say, “I’ll try to answer that tomorrow.” But better record it so you’ll be amazed when you try to recall the many  cute thoughts and wonderings they had.

10.  The Fears

I had a nephew who feared big jars or big paintings.  My daughter when she was 3 years old had a fear for old people with white hair and bald men.  Many fear the dark. Recently, I just found out my 2 preschool children had some trauma in having to watch , “Charlie and the Chocolate Factory ” for a Sunday school activity.  Most children will naturally out grow their fears.  So do not fuss and fret.

Oh, dear younger mom with younger children, don’t rush these seeming monotonous, trivial, “get me out of here please” moments. Record them via journal and video, and above all, enjoy them (for sure, you can find something good in them)for they will soon (and time flies!) grow  up!!!!

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Time flies, right?

 

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